The Good, the Bad, and the Jewnicorn

Three couples explain what worked and what they’d do differently for their spectacular gay and lesbian weddings.

BY C. Brian Smith

May 14 2014 4:00 AM ET

Aaron Rosenberg & Danny Rose, Hollywood, CA – October 2012

Aaron Rosenberg (above right) and Danny Rose were married in October 2012, in front of 423 friends and family members on the Paramount lot in Hollywood. Could they identify the biggest difference between gay weddings and straight weddings?

Rose responded without hesitation: “Absolutely none.”

Rosenberg agreed.

“Sure, it’s a new experience for people attending, and they try to look for differences. But at the core, there is absolutely no difference. Weddings are a celebration of love.” That said, celebrations of love — of any kind — can be tricky to pull off. Their wedding included a gospel choir, John Legend playing the mother-son dance, Jennifer Lopez dedicating a song from on stage at her concert in London via satellite, and a fully choreographed dance battle.

What did you get right? Danny Rose: From the outset, the only rule when planning this wedding was that it had to be very Aaron and very Danny — so it was basically a night of music and comedy. We wanted to poke fun at the notion that this was a gay wedding, and came down on a “Jewnicorn” to a Madonna song.

Which song?
Aaron Rosenberg: “Like a Virgin,” obviously.

Sounds like quite a production. AR: There were a lot of moving parts; finding the right event planners was key. And thank God we did: Brad Levine and Rembrandt Flores.

Is there anything you’d do differently if you had a do-over? AR: The only thing we got really wrong was the catering — the food came out late. But it wasn’t so bad because everyone just kept drinking.

What advice would you give a couple planning their wedding? DR: Remember what is truly important to you. When we look back, the most important moment was saying our vows — him looking into my eyes, me looking into his.